The Bloke and I saw these while we were staying in Apollo Bay, but I think they call for a gallery all their own…
Recently the Bloke and I had the pleasure of going to Apollo Bay for a few days. It’s an absolutely gorgeous place. If you can get in there a little while before tourist season really starts (like we did), it’s very peaceful.
I already want to go back…
Maybe if I was, I would have a more engaging blog, eh?
Maybe I should have a little more sympathy for myself. I’ve lost this blog about half a dozen times now thanks to bad web hosting (we’ve now switched, thank goodness) and a virus that just wouldn’t go away. I probably would have completely been lost without the basic grasp of HTML that I have.
Despite it being a rough year, things have been going well of late. I have now completed my Certificate IV in Professional Writing and Editing.
The year ended with launching a student anthology, producing a short film, and reading a non-fiction piece of mine in front of an audience of over 70. Not a bad way to top things off, to be sure.
I’m at a loss of where to go from here. I could go back to TAFE to complete Diploma level PWE or I could switch to online study and get started toward a degree. A degree will help me more career-wise, but TAFE is an excellent environment to work in (in the PWE program, at least). I’ve really come to love the people there.
On a personal front, I still struggle with my weight, but a juicing fast helped me to feel a lot better. I have a long way to go, but at least I’ve finally made a good start. Now it’s just a matter of where to go from here. Again. Common themes, anyone?
Decisions need to be made soon, and they are the kinds of decisions that will impact the rest of my life. In huge ways. I know I need to be grateful for having so many choices and opportunities, but that doesn’t make it any less hard to make these choices knowing that doing so will close other parts of my life.
I didn’t mean to come here and whinge. I really didn’t. But at least I am writing. I am hoping to have more of that happening here starting now.
I should just learn not to promise things. Ever. Some complications have extended my recovery time and have led to me spending more time sleeping than doing anything else. Ugh. Before the promised Part Two, a post close to my heart right now…
7 Things No One Told Me About Appendix Surgery
- 1. The ‘gas cramps’ can and do happen – and they can be as bad as the original pain.
- 2. Anaesthetic can make it difficult to pee. And fart.
- 3. The trauma of having surgery can start your period.
- 4. When they tell you that you can take X med once every X hours – do it! For heaven’s sake, do it.
- 5. Incision on the left.
- 6. Incisions leak!
- 7. Recovery is harder when you’re fat.
With my gallbladder surgery, I was lucky in that I didn’t have any problems with gas being trapped in my abdomen after the deal. I didn’t have to deal with that crap then, so I didn’t expect to have to deal with it this time. I was wrong. The cramps are painful. But don’t panic. Lying flat and encouraging yourself to ‘expel gasses’ helps.
The first part of that is… odd, but not too bad. Ones or twos hurt for a while no matter what, and that’s not really surprising given the whole ‘abdominal surgery’ thing. The second part was just weird. You really can’t imagine what it’s like to not be able to fart until you can’t. If you have the gas cramps I mentioned in #1, this is particularly frustrating.
Yep. It can also make your period last longer than usual – no matter how regular you are. It can also make your period start up again. And again. And again. And again. My system is pretty screwed from PCOS, but I have been a 5-day-period girl since the first time it happened. I went to day ten this time, with plenty of stops and starts in the process.
What is it with me having surgery while I’m on my period? (Yup, happened with the gallbladder, too.)
I hate taking pills. I really, really do. My philosophy is that the less I take now, the more effective it will be when I have no choice but to take it. So I didn’t stick to any sort of schedule when I came home with my meds, much to my mistake. When you’re recovering from having that many influential, frequently used muscles being messed with pain prevention is the word. Leaving it until you feel the pain will only lead to exhaustion and tears. (And stacks of pain, of course.)
A little thing, but something I didn’t expect. On most people, the appendix is on the right. My incisions? One below my belly button, one above my ladyland, and one on my lower abdomen on the left. Hm. Weird.
I think this is the one that pissed me off the most because I didn’t know! And it completely freaked me out when it started happening! Argh! But yeah, they leak – and they can leak a lot. Apparently the rule is that if it doesn’t leak weird colours (eg. green and jaundice yellow) and it doesn’t smell funky, you are right to go. I totally thought I’d broken something inside me and I was going to eventually leak everything out of my incision. Bleugh. I think it was something like nine days post-surgery that I stopped leaking enough that I actually bothered to put on a sticky bandage.
This one is a given, but it’s still frustrating. You hear so much about how ‘simple’ and ‘routine’ appendectomies are that you build up these recovery expectations. One, it’s a bit harder than that for anyone, and two, of course it’s harder when you’re fat. You have to carry around your gut like it’s a friggin’ pet for a while because it hurts too much to let it hang alone when you’re standing up. Ugh. Talk about motivation to get healthy…
When I said that I would post Part Two soon, I planned on posting the next day.
Unfortunately, the next day saw me rush to the emergency ward, get checked in, and get my appendix out in 26 hours.
To say it was unexpected…
I stayed an extra night in hospital because of a few niggling issues with me on top of the Bloke getting ill from all the stress and lack of sleep.
But he is feeling better for a full night of uninterrupted sleep, and I am happy to be resting at home. I didn’t luck out like I did with my gallbladder surgery, so I’m dealing with gas cramps from the surgery, but that’s the worst of it. With a week off from classes, I’ll be right to go in no time.
I’m only three weeks into my new eating plan, but I still sometimes find myself wondering how I got here. I was so anti-diet, especially after losing my gallbladder thanks to going on a VLCD diet. What could possibly possess me to go on another diet/plan/whatever?
The answer is fertility.
The Bloke and I have come to a place where we’re talking about children. Given my PCOS, we know it will very likely not be an easy road. It might not happen at all. But we’re to a place in our lives where we feel as ready as we ever will to take a first step.
The Bloke’s first step? A full physical.
My first step? A healthy eating plan that also addressed PCOS fertility.
At first, I was looking more to boost fertility than anything else. I haven’t ovulated on my own for years, so I figured it would take a while. When I got sick of reading articles about how much women with PCOS need to lose weight (granted, but tell me something I don’t know!), I started looking at videos on YouTube.
That’s when I came across The Low Amylose Plan: Fertility Improving Diet for PCOS’ers
What really caught my attention was Subfertile Frugalista.
After three years of trying various methods of getting pregnant, Subfertile Frugalista started this eating plan and ended up getting pregnant. After three years, a change of diet changed her life.
After that, I watched as many videos and read as many articles as I could about low amylose. Sure enough, PCOS’ers were having success with it, using it to increase fertility and lose weight as a pleasant side effect. Listening to/reading all the personal stories convinced me that I at least had to give it a go.
And let me say, only three weeks in has seen some dramatic – albeit unexpected – results…
(I hate to leave things on a cliffhanger, but it’s too much for one post! More soon!)
A couple posts ago, I mentioned that I am on a new eating plan.
After the last ‘diet’ I went on, I decided that I would never diet again. Most of ‘diet’ is ‘die’, and I’d killed myself in a million little ways with all the diets I have tried.
So while I know it’s all semantics in the end, I’m calling this my ‘eating plan’ rather than my diet. Even though it’s a diet. Technically. ‘Eating plan’ tacks on more of the ‘lifestyle change’ mentality and helps push aside all my past diet failures.
Onto the big question:
What could make me go on an eating plan with any sort of restrictions? Especially after all I’ve been through thanks to diets…
I’ve known I had to make a change for a long time now, but moreso lately. I’ve finally reached that point where I’m just tired of it all. I always thought rock bottom would feel more dramatic and miserable, but my rock bottom is softer, more exhausted than utterly depressed.
Slowly, quietly, without sudden notice, I just became… finished with being unhealthy. But I’ve tried losing weight before, been through counselling, tried gyms, so on and so forth. For a while, I felt lost and unsure of what steps I could take to make this time different than the rest…
The first thing I did?
I disregarded almost everything all the ‘authorities’ have told me about my body and my mind.
A doctor once told me that Very Low Calorie Diets would have no effect on fertility. *ditched*
Another doctor equated having Poly-Cystic Ovarian Syndrome with being dependent on drugs for everything fertility and hormone related. *gone*
A counselor told me that I shouldn’t track anything because I was ‘obsessive’. *buh-bye*
After that, I reviewed everything that has worked for me in the past:
*Ditching grains and root veggies
*NOT calorie counting
*Ditching processed sugar
*Weigh in daily
Wow. Just… wow. Accepting what I know works for me and not letting authority figures dictate my life and actions has to be one of the most freeing experiences of my life. It’s amazing, and I honestly didn’t think I’d embrace it so easily.
But I have, and it feels so good.
It’s not perfect and, heck, it might not even be healthy for some people. But it works for me. And it is working in somewhat unexpected ways…
More on exactly what I’m doing in a future post.
Tonight marks the seventh night of healthier eating. Tonight also marks the night of my first temptation aka urge to binge.
I thought about it. I went back and forth. I thought about how much I wanted some chocolate and how it would be so easy to indulge because I was home alone.
Usually at that point, I would have given in. As it turns out, the books I’ve been reading have sunk in.
So, where was I?
I thought about how it would be so easy to indulge because I was home alone-
I already knew I wasn’t actually hungry and wasn’t even craving chocolate. So when the above thought entered my mind, I accepted that I still have a fear of being left alone in the world. I gave up everything I knew when I was barely 20 years old, and I fear my world being uprooted again.
I smiled. I didn’t have chocolate. And I was proud of myself. I was also surprised that it wasn’t the emotionally-draining back and forth I usually have with myself pre-binge.
No binge and a happy me. I think I am moving on to another stage in my life.